September 26, 2017 Leslie Flowers

The Mystery Behind Limiting Beliefs … is No Mystery

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You may already know that our beliefs inspire or limit us … reside in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is not a place, but an activity — present in each and every cell of our body. So beliefs are invisible to the naked eye. Limiting beliefs are ‘clusters of habits’ that operate automatically. If someone says, “this is a bad economy” and our first thought is “yeh, it sure is,” the habit or limiting belief responded automatically, rather than our saying it to ourselves consciously. We could ask in response to the statement, “how do you know that is true,” as example. Questioning, rather than automatically accepting information is how we create new habits that serve us well.

As spiritual beings connected to all living things via shared subconscious energy, we each are born in perfect harmony with the Universe and our Creator. Limiting beliefs of those important figures in our life become our own, particularly before the age of reason (about 6) as we have no ‘conscious mind’ to accept or reject information. The subconscious mind, however cannot reject what it already accepted … and remember it’s also invisible. What a conundrum. If we could see and evaluate our beliefs and then kick them out, wouldn’t life be so much better?

A family passes down their limiting beliefs by repeatedly discussing those beliefs in the presence of a child over time. A family that believes dancing, as example, is a no-no — they don’t dance, they discuss how the family never has danced, they don’t mingle with ‘dancers,’ why they don’t dance, what’s wrong with those who do dance, etc., and talk about it repeatedly over a period of time, the child now has that limiting belief! An unsolicited gift, if you will, from those who love us and are quite unaware of the less than optimum influence this information has on our life. The child now believes dancing is on the do-not list. Note: When I first moved to North Carolina in the early 70’s, I was surprised to note that beliefs about social norms changed from town to town about smoking (we grow tobacco here), dancing, hems of dresses, etc.

Limiting beliefs create a barricade that blocks access to the perfect harmony we knew as toddlers, and it blocks our intuition. We want to get back to feeling and acting on our intuition, moving to shut down our limiting beliefs by creating new, positive ones, that will ultimately have us realize our limitless potential!

limiting beliefsWhen my third granddaughter Julia was two, she spent a night with me Christmas week. She made herself abundantly clear about what she wanted to do with Nana … and would have no other answer but YES (unless perhaps I offered a new agreement that satisfied her desire for whatever it was she wanted). She knew no limits as to what was possible for her! She would not move on to another task until this one was settled to her satisfaction. She had limitless potential and acted like she was 12 feet tall! Without the belief that you can’t … you absolutely can.

What would our lives be like if we could have beliefs that support our desire to serve? If we gave up HOW we are going to do a thing and only considered WHY we WANT to do it?

Julia wanted it because JULIA WANTED IT, and for no other reason. You will be happy to know that it is not a difficult process to create new beliefs that supersede the old limiting ones. That is what my work is all about. You must however not only WANT to create new beliefs, you must be WILLING to do what it takes. There is a difference.

If one point of this blog resonates with you, then my job is done! You see, at birth you already knew everything there was to know. Now this point may well be the spark that ignites your life, smoldering now … and just about ready to CATCH FIRE!

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