You likely already know that perception is how we ‘see things.’ It’s our ‘point of view.’ And you can use the Law of Polarity (opposites) to shift your perspective of someone or something to another point of view.
“Why bother doing that,” you may be thinking. “What difference does it make?”
Consider that we each have our own distinct point of view of everything and everyone. And it changes every time we learn new information. There are no two perceptions that are precisely the same because our views are unique and are built from our environment and our beliefs systems.
Why is this important?
Have you ever argued with someone about who is right and/or who is wrong? Of course … we all have! When you understand that our point of view ‘works well for us’ yet not as well for anyone else, you never need to argue with anyone again! Working to convince another person that your way is the ‘right way’ is pointless because they believe their way is the right way and, – that’s true for them.
What might our World look like if no one argued?
What if people actually put aside for one moment their own beliefs and view of what is being discussed, and stepped inside someone else’s view (shifting your perspective for a moment to the opposite or another view) to create harmony and new ideas?
Highly successful people practice this purposeful mental exercise and are typically successful in business, and all areas of their life. They waste little time ‘feeling’ like a ‘winner’ because they ‘won’ the argument. What did they win? Nothing, really. Covey’s habit “go for the win win” scenario comes to mind.
- Let’s say you share a large cubicle by the window in your office with one person.
- One morning, you walk over to the window and open it.
- A few minutes later, your office mate walks over and closes it.
- You get up again and open the window, and they repeat their action; they close it.
- Rather than argue about who will ‘win’ in this dilemma, successful people might ask this question before the second round! “WHY do you keep closing the window?”
- They may answer, “the breeze from the open window is ruffling the papers on my desk.” The point? They have their reason which obviously is not the same as yours.
- Your reason might be “I need some fresh air – I had turkey for lunch and am feeling sleepy.”
- Both views are valid and true for each person, right?
What then is the win-win?
Now that you have shared your points of view, you work together to come up with the best solution. This is not, mind you, a compromise. It is actually a better solution.
You get up and open a window located nearby and voila! You have fresh air and their papers don’t ruffle. Perfect harmony and synergy – the win-win by intentionally shifting your perspective. Both people got what they wanted and, no one was the ‘loser’ (while the other is the ‘winner)!
The next time you find yourself at odds in a situation with another, try this shift in perception, actually creating a better solution for both of you, and watch how your world B L O O M S ! ! !
Let me know how it goes, won’t you?
Understanding perception is one of the many concepts we study, practice… and through which we create new beliefs and behaviors for improved results in my long running women’s high performance mastermind program. We meet Tuesday evenings on Zoom 7:30-8:30 pm (NY time) and study the principles of success, universal law and much more inside my signature program, “The 8 Essentials of Performance and Achievement.”
Email me at Leslie@PathsofChange.com to learn more.