When Everyone is Right, No One is Wrong!

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You likely already know that perception is how we ‘see things.’ It’s our ‘point of view.’ And you can use the Law of Polarity (opposites) to shift your perspective of someone or something to another point of view.

Why bother doing that,” you may be thinking. “What difference does it make?”

Consider that we each have our own distinct point of view of everything and everyone. And it changes every time we learn new information. There are no two perceptions that are precisely the same because our views are unique and are built from our environment and our beliefs systems.

Why is this important?

Have you ever argued with someone about who is right and/or who is wrong? Of course … we all have! When you understand that our point of view ‘works well for us’ yet not as well for anyone else, you never need to argue with anyone again! Working to convince another person that your way is the ‘right way’ is pointless because they believe their way is the right way and, – that’s true for them.

What might our World look like if no one argued?

What if people actually put aside for one moment their own beliefs and view of what is being discussed, and stepped inside someone else’s view (shifting your perspective for a moment to the opposite or another view) to create harmony and new ideas?

Highly successful people practice this purposeful mental exercise and are typically successful in business, and all areas of their life. They waste little time ‘feeling’ like a ‘winner’ because they ‘won’ the argument. What did they win? Nothing, really. Covey’s habit “go for the win win scenario comes to mind.

  • everyone is right - perceptionLet’s say you share a large cubicle by the window in your office with one person.
  • One morning, you walk over to the window and open it.
  • A few minutes later, your office mate walks over and closes it.
  • You get up again and open the window, and they repeat their action; they close it.
  • Rather than argue about who will ‘win’ in this dilemma, successful people might ask this question before the second round! “WHY do you keep closing the window?”
  • They may answer, “the breeze from the open window is ruffling the  papers on my desk.” The point? They have their reason which obviously is not the same as yours.
  • Your reason might be “I need some fresh air – I had turkey for lunch and am feeling sleepy.” 
  • Both views are valid and true for each person, right?

What then is the win-win?

Now that you have shared your points of view, you work together to come up with the best solution. This is not, mind you, a compromise. It is actually a better solution.

You get up and open a window located nearby and voila! You have fresh air and their papers don’t ruffle. Perfect harmony and synergy – the win-win by intentionally shifting your perspective. Both people got what they wanted and, no one was the ‘loser’ (while the other is the ‘winner)!

The next time you find yourself at odds in a situation with another, try this shift in perception, actually creating a better solution for both of you, and watch how your world B L O O M S ! ! !

Let me know how it goes, won’t you?

Understanding perception is one of the many concepts we study, practice… and through which we create new beliefs and behaviors for improved results in my long running women’s high performance mastermind program. We meet Tuesday evenings on Zoom 7:30-8:30 pm (NY time) and study the principles of success, universal law and much more inside my signature program, “The 8 Essentials of Performance and Achievement.”
Email me at Leslie@PathsofChange.com to learn more.

3 Keys to Getting What You Want

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Are you clear how to get what you want? Do you know the keys to understanding what it takes to achieve your goals?

Key #1: The Truth About Time

“I wish I had more time!”

“If only there were 2 more hours in every day!”

“If I had just one extra day per week …!”

Sound familiar? I used to say that. But what I know now is that “we all have all the time there is – 24 hours!” No one has more or less than at amount.

“If I only had $5,000 I could do it!”

“I can’t do anything until I get more money.”

“I’ll spend on my family, but won’t spend on myself unless I get more money.”

Sound familiar? I used to say that. But what I know now is that “all successful people have these three keys in common that make them a success.”

And these people ‘start on their goal right now, regardless of circumstances.’

Key #2: The Value of New Information

  • Goals are wants, not needs.
  • Goals require you know the first steps, but not HOW you will achieve them.
  • Goals are about why.
  • Goals must include your plan to give back.
  • Goals must be written and include color, form, temperature, and emotion.
  • Goals are written and spoken in the 1st person – although they are already here.
  • Goals require time constraints – by when will you achieve them.
  • Goals are specific.

Time and money are beliefs, interfering with reaching goals, and must be put on the back burner when moving toward what we want. If we don’t, then we’ll come up with all sorts of excuses why we can’t do it … primarily not enough time and not enough money.

A goal can actually provide more time and manage your schedule effectively. How are you perceiving time and money?

When you have a specific goal, and think of it as your already having it and you have no clue how you are going to do it, and you want it more than anything, ask yourself this key question when an activity or appointment comes up:

If I do this, will it take me toward my goal or away from my goal? 

If it takes you toward your goal – DO IT; if it does not, don’t do it (at least not right now).

Only about 15% of people set goals (with roughly less than 5% ever reaching goals with consistency). So you can see how the belief that there ‘isn’t enough time’ exists and impacts most of us.

Consider yourself part of the few percent, should you choose to apply the few benchmarks for effective goal setting above. 

Key #3: You Don’t Have to Know How You’ll Get What You Want

getting what you wantIn fact, those who achieve do not know HOW they will achieve it. They do know Why they want it however. When it comes to money, when we really want something, something that makes our heart sing, something that we know in our heart of hearts is for us, the money always shows up! And it rarely shows up from the source we expected.

It’s the wanting and willingness and desire for the thing we want that has us step through our fears of doing the very things with which we are uncomfortable or unfamiliar, yet are required for achievement. If our desire for the things takes a back seat to the earning of revenue, the desire is not strong enough to keep us willing to keep stepping forward. It stops us from stepping out on Faith and doing it even when ‘we don’t know how.’
We stay motivated when we step through a fear, do it well, step through another one, and so on. The purpose of a goal is to motivate us into action. 

What we think, we eventually believe. What we believe sets us in motion (action). If we believe something wonderful (like a goal), our vibration (action) is high and we merrily move toward that goal. Our results, or our goal, is then manifested by natural law. Ideas are spiritual seeds available to all, but the person who ‘moves’ on that idea, gets to see it come to fruition!

To be part of the very few who achieve their goals, wants and dreams with momentum and consistency, simply take on these three keys.

1. We all have the same amount of time.

2. New information is the ‘miracle grow’ for motivating human beings.

3. Focus on why you want it and forget about how you will do it.

One powerful way to stay focused and to continue to move with persistence toward what you want, particularly for women in business, is to be part of a mastermind group.
I open seats every few months, and on Tuesday, July 11 we began a new Quarter.
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