Learning is the ‘Miracle Grow’ for our Mind

Share this:

“To Use or Not to Use the SMART Goal Model for Achievement,”
that is the question.

According to recent statistics, by now, almost everyone who started the New Year with a goal or resolution to make a positive change in their life, has lost steam and given up.

And giving up on our goals hurts us by preventing us from living the life we want and deserve. Setting and giving up on goals year after year (estimated 95% of us do this), diminishes our ‘muscle of confidence;’ confidence in ourselves, and confidence in the magic of our universe and its vast and secret laws, that allow us to influence how often we succeed in getting what we want.

“Confidence is a muscle that grows in direct proportion to its use.”

The truth is … when I ask seminar participants if they ever took a class on setting and achieving goals, barely a fraction raise their hand.

Not knowing how to achieve what we want consistently undermines our confidence as women, not only in our own ability to achieve our desires, but also our deserve-ability around having them.

What most of us DO know at least something about setting goals is centered on SMART goals. This old, misused model is great for daily or weekly tasks to reach the goal; however, it quickly and effectively flushes the life out of your big dream in record time.

Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-Bound. Specific, Measurable and Time-Bound, absolutely YES for big dreams and goals. Achievable and Realistic, however, are in direct conflict with the timeless, tried-and-true principles of achieving big goals and dreams consistently, over time.

While SMART goals serve as a poor model for setting big goals and dreams, we can learn from knowing how the model undermines achievement. The list below derived from the best and worst of this model, allows us to set and reach goals consistently, over time, thereby building our ‘muscle of confidence’ and getting to the life we want.

  1. Your goal must be clear and specific.
  2. You must be able to measure your results.
  3. You select an exact date by which you will achieve it.
  4. You don’t know all the steps to do it.
  5. It has to be big enough to keep you motivated.

Yes, there are more pillars. For now, this will launch you into finally setting goals that you will achieve! We are happiest when we are learning. Start today setting goals with these benchmarks and gain the confidence to have your “best shot at success!”

If this message resonates with you … come join a group of women on the Facebook Group One Woman’s Voice. We want to hear from you!

Top Three Reasons for the Lack of Trust Among Women in Business

Share this:


“When we get new information, we immediately and naturally change our perspective!

First … THE PATTERN. Nod your head yes if you’ve been here.

1. You are an entrepreneur or small business owner, or you are in corporate and you also have a side business.

2. You are new in town, or you are starting a new business.

3. You search for, have found, or are already in a women’s group.

4. You invest financially.

5. You invest your time; have one on ones and meetings each week.

6. Time goes by (the amount does not matter; weeks, months or even years) and maybe you get a referral.

7. Then you hear one of the members talking about you or saying something ugly behind your back.

Here comes that old ‘sinking feeling’ about yourself. It’s upsetting yet you are strong enough to stand up for yourself by saying something to yourself (or others if you are outspoken like me) like, “Well, this must not be the group for me.”

Logical choice and ultimately you leave, feelings bruised, and begin your search for the next women’s group.

“Oh, there’s one! I like the women so much,” thinking to yourself.

Here’s what happens next.

1.      You invest financially in this new group.

2.      You invest your time; have one on ones, and meetings each week.

3.      Time goes by (could be months, or even years) and maybe you get a client or two.

4.      Then you hear one of the members talking about you, or a friend, someone tells you.

5.      Sinking feeling; upsetting, “well, this must not be the group for me.”

I know how this feels. I did it myself for years, flowing from one group to another. Each one takes TIME (you never get back) and MONEY, and when you get that ‘sinking feeling’ that’s YOUR muscle of confidence you were building, DEFLATED again!

Three steps forward … and two steps back!!

In each case, you not only lose at least some of your upward MOMENTUM and your confidence … and your level of success literally atrophies and drops. Ugh.

And it goes on and on and on … until NOW!

WHY do women in business do this (scenario) to one another?

Answer: It’s automatic. It’s a HABIT because we’ve only been real business women en mass for three decades or so. Not only is breaking a habit a challenge; in most cases women are simply unaware of this.

You’ve heard this question asked countless times. I have developed a theory put into practice yielding extremely positive results by all standards.

HOW can we break this cycle of growing, stopping, searching, growing, stopping?

Answer: By simply becoming ‘aware’ of new information. We become wise through continuous learning.

What do women need to KNOW (that they didn’t know before this moment) t
hat would change this for us?

Answer: They have two ‘ways of being’ that conflict and it is easily managed.

No matter what women’s group you join, there will be at least that one woman who will undoubtedly deflate your confidence, which is a feeling of success (inadvertently or purposefully, neither of which matters).

Here it is: THE #1 reason for the Lack of Trust Among Women in Business Read more

NEWS FLASH! Women Discovered to Be Hard-Wired for Achievement!

Share this:

We all are hard wired for setting and then achieving goals. The truth is … we do it so frequently that it’s nature is habit and we haven’t looked at it for the purpose of replication. Or appreciated our own power!

That’s right. And … statistics show that less than five percent, give or take, of people ever reach their goals. “That makes no sense,” you are likely thinking. It’s a good thing if you are as you have a curious nature. It’s a good thing if you aren’t as you are part of the five percent of those who achieve goals. Read more