3 Keys to Getting What You Want

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Are you clear how to get what you want? Do you know the keys to understanding what it takes to achieve your goals?

Key #1: The Truth About Time

“I wish I had more time!”

“If only there were 2 more hours in every day!”

“If I had just one extra day per week …!”

Sound familiar? I used to say that. But what I know now is that “we all have all the time there is – 24 hours!” No one has more or less than at amount.

“If I only had $5,000 I could do it!”

“I can’t do anything until I get more money.”

“I’ll spend on my family, but won’t spend on myself unless I get more money.”

Sound familiar? I used to say that. But what I know now is that “all successful people have these three keys in common that make them a success.”

And these people ‘start on their goal right now, regardless of circumstances.’

Key #2: The Value of New Information

  • Goals are wants, not needs.
  • Goals require you know the first steps, but not HOW you will achieve them.
  • Goals are about why.
  • Goals must include your plan to give back.
  • Goals must be written and include color, form, temperature, and emotion.
  • Goals are written and spoken in the 1st person – although they are already here.
  • Goals require time constraints – by when will you achieve them.
  • Goals are specific.

Time and money are beliefs, interfering with reaching goals, and must be put on the back burner when moving toward what we want. If we don’t, then we’ll come up with all sorts of excuses why we can’t do it … primarily not enough time and not enough money.

A goal can actually provide more time and manage your schedule effectively. How are you perceiving time and money?

When you have a specific goal, and think of it as your already having it and you have no clue how you are going to do it, and you want it more than anything, ask yourself this key question when an activity or appointment comes up:

If I do this, will it take me toward my goal or away from my goal? 

If it takes you toward your goal – DO IT; if it does not, don’t do it (at least not right now).

Only about 15% of people set goals (with roughly less than 5% ever reaching goals with consistency). So you can see how the belief that there ‘isn’t enough time’ exists and impacts most of us.

Consider yourself part of the few percent, should you choose to apply the few benchmarks for effective goal setting above. 

Key #3: You Don’t Have to Know How You’ll Get What You Want

getting what you wantIn fact, those who achieve do not know HOW they will achieve it. They do know Why they want it however. When it comes to money, when we really want something, something that makes our heart sing, something that we know in our heart of hearts is for us, the money always shows up! And it rarely shows up from the source we expected.

It’s the wanting and willingness and desire for the thing we want that has us step through our fears of doing the very things with which we are uncomfortable or unfamiliar, yet are required for achievement. If our desire for the things takes a back seat to the earning of revenue, the desire is not strong enough to keep us willing to keep stepping forward. It stops us from stepping out on Faith and doing it even when ‘we don’t know how.’
We stay motivated when we step through a fear, do it well, step through another one, and so on. The purpose of a goal is to motivate us into action. 

What we think, we eventually believe. What we believe sets us in motion (action). If we believe something wonderful (like a goal), our vibration (action) is high and we merrily move toward that goal. Our results, or our goal, is then manifested by natural law. Ideas are spiritual seeds available to all, but the person who ‘moves’ on that idea, gets to see it come to fruition!

To be part of the very few who achieve their goals, wants and dreams with momentum and consistency, simply take on these three keys.

1. We all have the same amount of time.

2. New information is the ‘miracle grow’ for motivating human beings.

3. Focus on why you want it and forget about how you will do it.


One powerful way to stay focused and to continue to move with persistence toward what you want, particularly for women in business, is to be part of a mastermind group.
I open seats every few months, and on Tuesday, July 11 we began a new Quarter.
Contact me via my website if you would like a conversation to learn more:
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Learning is the ‘Miracle Grow’ for our Mind

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“To Use or Not to Use the SMART Goal Model for Achievement,”
that is the question.

According to recent statistics, by now, almost everyone who started the New Year with a goal or resolution to make a positive change in their life, has lost steam and given up.

And giving up on our goals hurts us by preventing us from living the life we want and deserve. Setting and giving up on goals year after year (estimated 95% of us do this), diminishes our ‘muscle of confidence;’ confidence in ourselves, and confidence in the magic of our universe and its vast and secret laws, that allow us to influence how often we succeed in getting what we want.

“Confidence is a muscle that grows in direct proportion to its use.”

The truth is … when I ask seminar participants if they ever took a class on setting and achieving goals, barely a fraction raise their hand.

Not knowing how to achieve what we want consistently undermines our confidence as women, not only in our own ability to achieve our desires, but also our deserve-ability around having them.

What most of us DO know at least something about setting goals is centered on SMART goals. This old, misused model is great for daily or weekly tasks to reach the goal; however, it quickly and effectively flushes the life out of your big dream in record time.

Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-Bound. Specific, Measurable and Time-Bound, absolutely YES for big dreams and goals. Achievable and Realistic, however, are in direct conflict with the timeless, tried-and-true principles of achieving big goals and dreams consistently, over time.

While SMART goals serve as a poor model for setting big goals and dreams, we can learn from knowing how the model undermines achievement. The list below derived from the best and worst of this model, allows us to set and reach goals consistently, over time, thereby building our ‘muscle of confidence’ and getting to the life we want.

  1. Your goal must be clear and specific.
  2. You must be able to measure your results.
  3. You select an exact date by which you will achieve it.
  4. You don’t know all the steps to do it.
  5. It has to be big enough to keep you motivated.

Yes, there are more pillars. For now, this will launch you into finally setting goals that you will achieve! We are happiest when we are learning. Start today setting goals with these benchmarks and gain the confidence to have your “best shot at success!”

If this message resonates with you … come join a group of women on the Facebook Group One Woman’s Voice. We want to hear from you!

NEWS FLASH! Women Discovered to Be Hard-Wired for Achievement!

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We all are hard wired for setting and then achieving goals. The truth is … we do it so frequently that it’s nature is habit and we haven’t looked at it for the purpose of replication. Or appreciated our own power!

That’s right. And … statistics show that less than five percent, give or take, of people ever reach their goals. “That makes no sense,” you are likely thinking. It’s a good thing if you are as you have a curious nature. It’s a good thing if you aren’t as you are part of the five percent of those who achieve goals. Read more

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