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The Mystery Behind Limiting Beliefs … is No Mystery

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You may already know that our beliefs inspire or limit us … reside in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is not a place, but an activity — present in each and every cell of our body. So beliefs are invisible to the naked eye. Limiting beliefs are ‘clusters of habits’ that operate automatically. If someone says, “this is a bad economy” and our first thought is “yeh, it sure is,” the habit or limiting belief responded automatically, rather than our saying it to ourselves consciously. We could ask in response to the statement, “how do you know that is true,” as example. Questioning, rather than automatically accepting information is how we create new habits that serve us well.

As spiritual beings connected to all living things via shared subconscious energy, we each are born in perfect harmony with the Universe and our Creator. Limiting beliefs of those important figures in our life become our own, particularly before the age of reason (about 6) as we have no ‘conscious mind’ to accept or reject information. The subconscious mind, however cannot reject what it already accepted … and remember it’s also invisible. What a conundrum. If we could see and evaluate our beliefs and then kick them out, wouldn’t life be so much better?

A family passes down their limiting beliefs by repeatedly discussing those beliefs in the presence of a child over time. A family that believes dancing, as example, is a no-no — they don’t dance, they discuss how the family never has danced, they don’t mingle with ‘dancers,’ why they don’t dance, what’s wrong with those who do dance, etc., and talk about it repeatedly over a period of time, the child now has that limiting belief! An unsolicited gift, if you will, from those who love us and are quite unaware of the less than optimum influence this information has on our life. The child now believes dancing is on the do-not list. Note: When I first moved to North Carolina in the early 70’s, I was surprised to note that beliefs about social norms changed from town to town about smoking (we grow tobacco here), dancing, hems of dresses, etc.

Limiting beliefs create a barricade that blocks access to the perfect harmony we knew as toddlers, and it blocks our intuition. We want to get back to feeling and acting on our intuition, moving to shut down our limiting beliefs by creating new, positive ones, that will ultimately have us realize our limitless potential!

limiting beliefsWhen my third granddaughter Julia was two, she spent a night with me Christmas week. She made herself abundantly clear about what she wanted to do with Nana … and would have no other answer but YES (unless perhaps I offered a new agreement that satisfied her desire for whatever it was she wanted). She knew no limits as to what was possible for her! She would not move on to another task until this one was settled to her satisfaction. She had limitless potential and acted like she was 12 feet tall! Without the belief that you can’t … you absolutely can.

What would our lives be like if we could have beliefs that support our desire to serve? If we gave up HOW we are going to do a thing and only considered WHY we WANT to do it?

Julia wanted it because JULIA WANTED IT, and for no other reason. You will be happy to know that it is not a difficult process to create new beliefs that supersede the old limiting ones. That is what my work is all about. You must however not only WANT to create new beliefs, you must be WILLING to do what it takes. There is a difference.

If one point of this blog resonates with you, then my job is done! You see, at birth you already knew everything there was to know. Now this point may well be the spark that ignites your life, smoldering now … and just about ready to CATCH FIRE!


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Intuition. Did You Hear That Voice?

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One of my favorite quotes by Wayne Dyer says “If prayer is when we talk to God, then he answers us through our intuition.”

Intuition is our connection to our Creator. 

That then, you could say, actually makes us co-creators. Some folks refer to Creator as God or Jesus. Some call it as Buddha or Allah. Some people refer to this supreme entity as Source Energy or the Universal Energy or Spirit. No matter what ‘name’ you use, they each represent and are pointing to the same Force

The force that contains all ideas and exists in all places at all times in equal amounts and is accessible by everyone.

If you don’t see that we are first and foremost Spiritual beings, and that we are gifted with intelligence and a body, you may believe we are our bodies, gifted with spirit and intellect. I am going to request you agree, for the purpose of this conversation, that we are Spiritual beings first, and our gifts are intellect and a body. Fair enough?

Consider that whatever thought, dream or image, whether positive or negative, held repeatedly in our conscious minds, will eventually become a Belief. It doesn’t matter if it’s right or wrong either. Once it becomes a belief, it lives like the truth for each of us. In fact we have perfect Faith in that belief and no one can change our minds. Only we can do that!

During the first half dozen or so years of our lives (until the age of reason), we receive countless unsolicited verbal ‘gifts’ from family, friends and loved ones. Gifts like “money doesn’t grow on trees,” as an example.

We have no ability to disseminate or to toss out ideas we don’t like in our very early years. Therefore EVERYTHING we hear repeatedly from others becomes OUR belief. Most of our beliefs still limit and stop us from being, doing and having all that we want. So these are actually what are referred to as limiting beliefs. These beliefs stand between our communication with our Creator and acting on those communications. We could say limiting beliefs prevent the voice of Creator from reaching us. Or if it does reach us, it isn’t powerful enough to stand up against a slew of our limiting beliefs which have been operating successfully all our lives.

Case in Point: You are in second grade and it is your turn to stand in front of the room and recite a poem everyone had learned. You stumble over your words, the kids laugh, you are embarrassed and flustered. Now they laugh more and more and you ‘decide,’ “I’ll never get up in front of a group of people again!” Your cheeks are flushed and you are upset and cannot wait to sit down!

And you pray silently, “God, please don’t let me cry!” 

intuition - hear that voiceNow, throughout your life, you have that built in ‘fear’ of public speaking. Is it true that you can’t recite the poem in question without a mistake? Of course you can, with more practice. We all have infinite potential to be, do and have whatever we want as long as we do not violate the rights of others. We are never given an idea that we cannot achieve, or as Napoleon Hill puts it in Think & Grow Rich, “what a man can conceive and believe, he can achieve.”

As an adult, you are given the opportunity to present what you love doing publicly. In that moment when you are asked, right away your limiting beliefs remind you “remember when you flubbed it up in 2nd grade – what makes you think you can speak now?” Your intuition (or Creator) is saying, “this is perfect for you – speak to this group about your passion!” That voice from Creator is quieter and softer than the loud and booming and well practiced derailing limiting beliefs that do not want you to venture out of your comfort zone. Limiting beliefs win again! Well, they’re well practiced, aren’t they?

All the answers to any and all of our questions are available to us.

Many times before I retire in the evening, I will be thinking about a challenge that I was unable to resolve that day. More often than not, when I wake up, I have a fresh new outlook and usually one or two powerful ideas to resolve the issue. Has something like this ever happened to you? Did you think those new ideas were yours?

Those ‘ideas’ are not yours! They are the Gifts from our Creator, as co-creators! 

They arrive in our conscious awareness via the intellectual ‘muscle of intuition’.

The next time you hear Creator whispering “you can do it”, don’t look up and ask “are you sure? I’ve failed before. I’m not very smart.” We often do not trust our best self because our well-seasoned limiting beliefs have been stopping us from doing what we want for decades!


Everything happens for a reason and YOU are in LUCK! The timing is perfect! Is your INTUITION itching??

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What Do We Really Know About Faith?

 


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What is Faith?

Is it an emotion?

Is there a time limit on how long you should have (or keep the) Faith?

Will it vary depending on your want or need?

In addition to the religious realm, in what other areas of our lives do we have Faith?

How do you attain Faith?

What happens if we have Faith in something negative, such as revenge? How do we know if we have Faith?

All good questions and I bet you have some yourself.
As for the answers ….


Faith is THE most powerful emotion we have.

When coupled with clear focus and surrender (of all other thoughts), as in prayer, it is the direct path to our Creator. Faith allows our prayers to be translated into their spiritual equivalent so they can be acted upon by the Universe. Napoleon Hill wrote extensively about this principle of success in Think & Grow Rich one hundred years ago. Hill said there is no such thing as ‘prayer by proxy.’

I would love to ask him about group prayer for someone who needs help, for example. But maybe one of you has the answer. And prayer without Faith provides no communication with Creator.

While we may already have Faith in someone or some thing, we can actually create Faith to have in something we want very much, as long as we do not violate the rights of others. For those who use Faith for things that are outside natural and spiritual law, it may appear to have ‘worked’ on the surface, yet natural laws are consistent and there is no ultimate remuneration for negativity – except more of that.

What we think about, we become.

FaithAnd, we think in pictures or images. If we consistently picture the image of what we want – let’s start very simply with a great parking spot at the local mall – we start first by expecting (definition: likely to occur) the spot to be there when we arrive. After a few times of arriving to find the perfect spot waiting for us, we begin to believe (definition: a firm opinion we are going to get what we want) we can always cause the spot for ourselves. After numerous times – you find you almost always get a great space after you have visualized or held the image in your mind – see yourself pulling into the space – the conscious mind passes that ‘knowing’ to the subconscious mind and eventually you will have created Faith – a knowing of something where no measures or metrics are needed and no matter what anyone else says, you know it is so.

If you can picture it in your mind long enough, you will ultimately hold it in your hand.

If you use the principle emotion of Faith, you influence or simply draw toward you that which you desire, more surely and more quickly. Have fun with this Gift as you scurry happily toward a jammed mall – knowing and visualizing since you left your home that just the perfect spot is waiting out front for you. [When occasionally there is not the plumb space for me, I remind myself that someone else wanted it more than I, and they saw the space with more intensity this time].


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